Tragic Passing of Baby's Father Causes Controlling Brother-In-Law to Try to Takeover

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    Font - Posted by u/Throwaway955744 10 hours ago AITA for yelling at my BIL that he's not my baby's dad? My f26 husband m28 passed away 3 months ago. I'm 8 months pregnant and It's been hard for me without him. I lived with his family for a while and moved out to my own rantal apartment recently. While I was living with my inlaws, my BIL "Kevin" m31 kept acting strange. He tried to control me by dictating where I'm going and what I'm doing. At first I thought (he said it himself) that he was help
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    Font - After I moved out we stopped talking for a week. Kevin then reached out saying he was just checking on the baby and started visiting me with his mom. He then started calling daily asking about his nephew and kept inviting himself and his mom for dinners with me. Last night, They came over for dinner and they brought up my baby again talking about setting up health insurance and offering financial support. Kevin then asked about my plans for my baby's birth. I said I'm going to give birth
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    Human body - We haven't talked after that and I'm not sure if I was wrong for yelling at him and hurting his feelings when he's clearly trying to help.
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    Font - 4DegreeDee 8 hr. ago 32 You're NTA. They are attempting to use their money to control the situation. They spent money on a nursery to ensure you'd stay. When you didn't they wouldn't let you take it with you. (This indicates it a wasn't for the baby at all.) They offered to pay for the hospital but only the one they want and only if they can be there. Again this is not them offering help! This is attempting to pay for a ticket to see the birth. Maintain your boundaries. Otherwise you may
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    Font - sunnydays0306 . 7 hr. ago This right here! NTA, and seriously be careful. They just lost their son/brother and probably see your baby boy as his "replacement". Their grief could make them do some crazy things, so I would limit their access to you and also have someone with you when they're over for dinner. At least until they start respecting your boundaries and are being supportive with no strings attached. Also look into grandparents rights where you live - since your husband passed the
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    Font - AriGryphon 4 hr. ago There is no worry of Grandparents rights. Grandparents can only get visitation if the parent cuts off an EXISTING meaningful relationship with the Grandparents without good reasons. The baby is not even BORN yet. There is no close relationship for them to appeal to in court. They have absolutely zero legal standing unless they try to prove her unfit and sue for custody - visitation is in no way possible here. But they may try, sure, considering they're trying to say s
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    Font - starlighttacker. 8 hr. ago NTA i understand they could be grieving their loved one but it also seems like theyre trying to steal your baby. i would be careful about visits and if they try anything sneaky 773 ... Reply Share Zookeeper-007 . 7 hr. ago Asshole Aficionado [13] I would stop visits and be super careful. They wouldn't give you the supposed gifts that they got for the babies since you're not living in their house? I think they need some therapy they're clearly trying to cling ont
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    Font - Julia070000 8 hr. ago Asshole Enthusiast [8] NTA they are going to try steal your child 524 ↓ Reply Share Bigglesworththeelf. 7 hr. ago I completely agree with you! OP needs to get a lawyer incase they try to take the baby. NTA I'm so sorry for you loss! 142 Reply Share
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    Font - MadoogsL 8 hr. ago Judge, Jury, and Excretioner [380] ΝΤΑ They're treating you like an incubator 290 Reply Share
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    Font - salstanonreddit. 8 hr. ago Partassipant [1]] NTA. Firstly OP, sorry for your loss, particularly at such a difficult time. I'm sorry you're going through this. Obviously Kevin and his mother are also grieving and, to a certain degree, I would be inclined to give them the benefit of the doubt. However, insisting on being at the birth, holding baby equipment hostage to force you to remain at their home etc are all coercively controlling behaviours and highly problematic. I'm sorry this is ad
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    Font - Katzenheimer. 7 hr. ago Partassipant [2] For your baby's safety, please tell the nurses not to let them in the ward during labor and after birth 161 Reply Share

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